University has been a funny experience for me. Being in first year, I’ve learned how not to do a lot of things. I’ve discovered I need to improve on my timing (I literally live two minutes away from the lecture halls… it should not be possible to be late – but it is). I’ve discovered my time management is awful. Three hours have gone by and I’ve been through 3 slides of the lecture. An hour a slide..really Gina? Well yes, it happens and I always have to step back and tell myself: ‘This didn’t go as planned G, so here’s the plan for tomorrow…’ It’s good to get things in order.
However, there are some days I just can’t talk myself back up. Some days I just need to vent. Here is where university has become a great place for me. I have found such strength in going to speak to people when I need help. I’ve honestly had to humble myself and tell myself: ‘G, as for diss onee deyy…’ (yup the african antics pop up here and there) and willingly knock down pride. It tries to creep in here and there, but I’m learning to remain humble with God’s grace.
The most important thing since coming to university is the fact that I have experienced change. I’ve noticed a change in my character and growth in my faith. This is not down to me, it’s down to the grace of God encouraging me by putting good friends in my life.
I ask, have you made any friends because I want you to reflect. As Christians we need to surround ourselves with godly truths such as Christian novels, listening to sermons and daily devotionals. Here’s a thought though, have you ever considered that just the mere presence of a person can elevate you spiritually?
Friend – a state of mutual trust and support between allies. Here it is in terms of country but it applies to us. Are your ‘friends’ people you can honestly trust? Can you speak about your troubles openly?
Here’s a word we use often – banter.
Banter can become dangerous. It crosses the line when people use it as an excuse to be hurtful. Teasing is permissible, that can be between people who are close, but when it’s a number of people against one person…how is that improving your friendship? Yeah it can be for laughs but have you ever stopped to think how that person feels?
Here’s what I think a good friend should be:
- Someone who is concerned about your general well being, who takes an interest in helping you feel better when your down.
- Someone who speaks positivity around you.
- Someone who is truthful and considerate.
- A friend is someone who prays about your well-being
- A friend is someone who speaks positivity over your life through prayer.
- A friend is someone who always puts you first, regardless of their own motives.
(Admittedly this is hard, but effort always pays off!)
Do you do that for your friends?
People are so influential, we need to understand this. What we surround ourselves by determines what we become. I realised I was a bad friend to some when I thought about the ‘gwarnnn girl’ that used to come out my mouth when one of my girls was dancing with a guy. She was casually destroying dignity and I encouraged her. We thank God for saving grace!
The main point of me writing today is to make you think: would you have taken certain decisions if certain people were not in your life? Do you surround yourself in enough love from genuine people?
What’s the point in being with a bunch of people who just crush your ability to grow as a person?
You find the best of friends in the most uncommon places. The story of me and my best friend is a prime example. He in my opinion was a ‘neek’ as I would of put it back then. When we first met, I really disliked him. A few jumps over some hurdles and we’re in a position where we encourage each other in Christ and I feel so blessed to have him. (At this point, Vince you call me and tell me how much you love me haha).
Starting my journey with God I was worried I would loose friends. Even now I have noticed I don’t talk to as many people as before. That’s not a bad thing though. I view it as a transition. A change from talking to many not so great ‘friends’ to a few life changing friends.
I thank God for those who have helped me on my spiritual journey. All those who offer encouraging words, and all those who just simply ask me how my day has been and show genuine interest. You know who you are.
A special shout out to RockSolid Christian Fellowship! You’ve welcomed me with such open arms and have shown me a level of love I never knew existed.
I dedicate this blog to two friends who planted those seeds within me to start pursing God, I’m going to call these two my pioneers :’)
Vincent Nimoh and Gifty-Amy Amprako (Yes I will do full names)
God richly bless you! Thank for being obedient to God by spreading His word.
I leave you with beautiful scriptures to mediate on:
‘ Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective’. James 5: 16.
‘ Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins. Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace it’s various forms’. 1 Peter 4: 8 – 10.
Remain Blessed and…
Fruitful Friendships 🙂
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